Don't Look Back
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Never look back unless you are planning to go that way."
~ Henry David Thoreau
This week, The Weekly Beet reports straight from the beginnings of 2010. Mary Kent doesn't look back, revealing a few tips on letting the past go and how to move forward with grace and ease into the New Year!
It's a new year, a new time, and a new space. Where we go from here is all in the hands of the creator of your experience, which I am here to say is you! We are now in a moment where we are all being asked to cut the chords of the past, make healthier decisions and resolutions, and put into practice nothing better than a fabulous version of you. But, how do we become better versions when our rickety, old past keeps us from becoming anew? I am the first to admit it's not an easy thing this not looking back and mentally walking away from past loves, experiences, and creations. Afterall, we are humans who came to Earth feeling deeply connected to people, places, and things by the energies that lie deep within our emotions. Living in various cities has forced me to move physically, yet emotionally and energetically I have had to learn to cut ties with certain people and places that has proved quite challenging. Why? Because I, like everyone else on this planet, have invested emotional energies of the heart and soul into people, places, and things and the mind, which has created a million reasons not to be free, loves to keep us from letting go, instead of not looking back. In essence, we become hooked and baited by our emotional reactions, which keep playing out until we learn how to cut the emotional line or choose a new way.
Our past, which truly lies no where else but in the mind, loves to call us back for more and will put up a fight to keep us stuck in its silly recreations. I am ure you'll know precisely what I'm talking about when the past starts creeping in in the presence of a new love or perhaps even in the personality of the new boss at work. The situation or the person that presents itself in your life will very quickly start to feel ever so familiar and that is most likely when the opportunity to handle things differently arrives - if you will stand knowingly aware of what is happening. So, when that past comes ringing in loud and clear, it's time to pick up with an internal message that says, "OK, I've been here before and I remember I went down that road once with that reaction which made things pretty difficult. So, even though it might feel weird, I'm not choosing thaaaat again." And, literally by making a NEW choice of how to react, you make a sharp turn to the right of your past and into a world of new possibilities. And, that new possibility may mean to walk out, to cut the chord, and never look back. Or, it may simply mean to stay, to breathe, and to work through the situation, which will put you in your heart, a place that intuitively knows how to unconditionally accept and to never look back.
So, choosing a new reaction in the present is only the first stop in learning to move forward. Here are my top 5 tips to help you walk the road to empowerment and to help you never look back:
- Join a spiritual group. If you are Christian, join a prayer group or Bible study. Hold tight to the notion that we all have the potential within to be a Christ and that Jesus' message and example was that if we observed how he operated, we could and would do greater things than he. I truly believe this. For the New Ager, Eckhart Tolle has created a stir with his NOW books. Neale Donald Walsh, the author of Conversations with God, has done the same. Becoming spiritually empowered is the greatest gift you can give yourself to make changes and to help you move forward.
- Become the watcher of your mind, which is dying to recreate the past over and over again. I have recreated my past so many times, especially with boyfriends, it makes me laugh out loud! Know that your mind wants to stick you back in the same relationship. Know that your mind craves the same old patterns. Know that it is your mind that is truly the only thing keeping you from moving forward. It's as simple as this. If you need help reprogramming the thoughts of your mind, call my great friend Laurie Lamson who does something called Theta Healing. It's AMAZING!!! She is great at helping to cut those emotional ties between people.
- Know where you going. When I returned from living in England, I was most confused about what to do next and my mother just happened to recommend a movie called I Know Where I Am Going. The message was perfect for me. Just make a goal or know what it is that you are trying to achieve. Write it down and with faith it will come to fruition. I know this! I know this!
- Master your fears. Fear is the emotion that appears within to keep us from moving forward. The only way you can truly face your fears is to write them all down and tackle them one by one. I started with a fear of public speaking and the only way I got over this was to go out and do it. I faced that fear and was on to the next one. Letting go of fears is a great way to keep you moving forward and not looking back!
- Letting go of judgment. This one is HUGE!! If you find yourself judging you, then it's time to ask yourself why. Judgement keeps you from moving forward. By accepting the situation you have found yourself in, you will begin to clear the energy and as a result things will start to shift. But, you can not move forward unless you have released alot of the judgement of yourself and others. There is seriously liberating and will push you forward rapidly.
- And, you know me! I always like to add a #6. Learn to forgive. Forgiving yourself, others, and situations are important factors in freeing you to move forward. It is a process so don't think that forgiveness comes easily. This one was brutal for me because I tend to think I am always right and have been the queen of moving on without forgiving. But, forgiving isn't at all about condoning other's behaviors or becoming BFFs again. Give me a break! It's all about you and about freeing yourself from the emotional energy that is keeping you in a stand still. It is VITAL to forgive - not just for the psyche, but for your future. An unforgiven past makes for a slow step towards the future, not to mention an uncomfortable moment in the now. So, I say, forgive, forget, and mooooove on! Click here to learn the art of forgiveness.
Not looking back is definitely a test that I have been put to many times. 2009 was a year that ended with alot of beautiful pushes to move me forward, but, there were definitely a few tricks that tried to get me to turn back from where I knew I was meant to be going. The Beet felt Gooped all over, but learned it was a lesson in flattery! My little English cottage flooded on Christmas Day and I had to find a new place in a matter of days. Best present from St. Nick! I lost a few close friends, but was revisited by some old loves that reminded me just how much love really does endure. I got sick again, but managed to push through it with a lot of self-love, care, and attention. So, with a lot of wild and crazy pitfalls trying to trick me and keep me down in the dumps, there was always a heavenly ladder that appeared right when I needed to climb out the most. And, each time I climbed out, I found a little miracle waiting on the other end. My Heart Beet came to life, The Beet hit E! and major newsstands in the US and even across the world to India, paintings were sold, and lots of new and exciting doors started opening. Let me be the first to testify that no matter how hard we get hit by the flood, God and the universe that is operating on behalf of our highest good always has something to dry up the rain, to make it all much much better, and, yes, to keep us moving forward.
Cut the cord!!! Don't look back! It's time let it all go! Don't miss a Beet. Stay tuned for next week.
PS. Mary Kent is wearing dress by Eden Boheme available in Charleston, SC. She is NOT looking back and running forward towards the new. Photographic credit goes to Michael Kadlubkiewicz, who worked alongside Diana Deaver the day of the shoot.
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