Language of Letting Go!
"Letting go means learning to lighten up as well as enlightening up. We do this by loosening our tight grip on things and relaxing our tendency to try to control everything in our environment. If we are unable to do this we run the risk of being pulled along, or 'dragged,' willy-nilly without conscious awareness. We end up where we would choose not to be. Unfortunately, too many of us are paying members of the worldwide church of control-freakism. And the dues can be outrageous."
- Lama Surya Das
This week, The Weekly Beet reports on two words that are so powerful they just might make your life finally take flight! Mary Kent holds on tight, so tight in fact, that she learns the importance of what it means to let go.
Someone once sang a song about life being a highway. While appropriate for the Top 40s, something about calling life a highway seems a bit narrow, straight, and totally boring. Perhaps, a more appropriate metaphor would be to refer to life as a tree, just as the ancients did by using the tree of life to symbolize the creation of the universe out of nothing. When we climb the tree of our own life, we literally begin with nothing and are presented with the many branches of choice that are meant to help us become the people we are meant to be and the purpose we are meant to fulfill. The ascent is meant to be exciting, fun, liberating, empowering, and ultimately loving. Yet, for some it can be painful, fearful, and completely overwhelming. The choices we must make include career, relationships, hobbies, studies, spirituality, children, and on and on. Sometimes our tree presents us with many choices and we must choose the one that best fits our needs, feeling confident and trusting that all will work out as planned.
Though many times when we make a choice, unknowingly, we may hold tight to the branch with unconscious fears and worries that cause us to try and control the outcome of what we have chosen. We attach too much expectation to the process based upon past relationships with people or experiences. While we trusted the climb upwards, it is not until the very moment we are exposed and dangling on our chosen limb that we soon realize we have met our ultimate challenge: ourselves. We begin to doubt everything about the branch we have chosen and soon all trust and confidence that got us there begins to fade. So many questions cause our original purpose to seem so distant and our mind won't give up until we learn its game. What if the branch breaks? How long will it support us? What if we chose the wrong branch? What if we get hurt? What if we have to start the climb over? What if I'm not strong enough to hold on? When the mind kicks in with worries, self-doubt, and fear, we begin to control the choice that we grabbed so courageously. But, with enough awareness of our mind's trick, we begin to learn the process of letting go and allow feelings of trust and power to keep us climbing higher.
Many of us do choose to go out on a limb whether in career or in love, yet we stay stuck, controlling these choices and ultimately our life, when we should be letting go. So, here's what we must learn in order to be out there hanging confidently, courageously, and securely:
- Stop Resisting. Feelings will occur while making choices or following your dreams in order to stop you from proceeding. Don't fight them. Just know they are there to teach you something about yourself. This will allow fear and doubt to dissolve and release.
- Acceptance. Accept there is a part of you that truly doesn't want to let go. Accept whatever obstacle comes your way. Whether it is a feeling of fear about a business deal or a horrible boss, accept these aspects as part of the plan.
- Surrender. When you have made your choice, surrender it to the universe. Write it down on a piece of paper and tear it up, knowing and trusting that whatever you choose will come to surface.
- Trust. Know that by putting yourself out there whether in matters of business or of the heart,
you have elevated your spiritual karma in such a way that you are already a winner. Know that what you are choosing will work out. And, if doesn't, then it really wasn't meant to be.
- Gratitude. Be grateful that you have and are able to make so many choices! Thank all persons involved for being a part of your journey to greatness.
- Love. In order to fully let go, you must love and honor yourself enough to know that whatever happens to you and the result of your choosing
will always be turn out for the best.
- Then, finally, Let Go!
And, when you have followed these few steps, you will ultimately learn what it means to be free. Then, you can even fly away from the tree, but always remembering to allow the words "letting go" to guide you. Now, that's what we call unBEETable!
Let go! It's time to spread your wings and fly! Don't miss a Beet. Stay tuned for next week.
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MK's Health Tip: "Let's get this straight: You have got to detox your liver at least once a year. The liver houses ALL toxins and must be detoxed for proper functioning. Fall is the best time to do this!
Quote: "Live your life from your heart. Share
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